This is an unusual moment for me, I don’t like to take my political thoughts and put them out there. If I do discuss what I am thinking I do so in a close circle of friends. However in this case, this is just not political, this is personal.
This election year is full of words and no answers. I am thinking, how is this any different than any election year, the pontificating, hammer banging, I think I even saw a shoe come out. The soap boxes are lining the streets. I have carefully placed my soap box and I am ready to orate.
Back a few years, about eight to be exact, the considerate and thoughtful voters of this state, in efforts to moralize this country back to decency, decided to it would be in the best interest of the “moral, ethical fiber” of this country to only recognize the “institution” of marriage between a female and a male. As we all know, males and females are the only individuals who can provide a loving, happy, balanced home, right?. Are you ready to hurl yet? I think I just puked in my mouth. Fortunately, the Supreme Court had an epiphany and remembered one of the “radical” foundations of this country, we as a people fought so hard for:
”We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. “
My point to all of this is to get back to basic speak. I want to share with all of you how offended I am that there are still people in this country who are intolerable and not accepting of where love chooses to reside. Proposition 8 is narrow-minded, hyper religious rhetoric, chipping away our basic bloodshed freedoms of the pursuit of life, liberty and happiness.
Relationships are hard, and everyone is in one. Between parents and kids, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, grandmothers, grandfathers, friends, co-workers, bosses, cats, dogs, the local barista at the Starbucks (trying to order there is almost impossible for a coffee neophyte like me), listen I don’t have a clear cut answer. I just know that in my relationships, I have to work hard to keep them happy and healthy. I have kids and a husband, my home is no more important than another family who may have two fathers or two mothers, one mother, one father, one grandparent, aunt, or uncle for that matter. In fact, I believe families who are outside the beaten into our heads; institutionalized “norms” of this society are awe inspiring.
Every day is a struggle and if you have a person in your life you can count on, rely on, trust, love, be a partner with, figure things out together than BRING IT! That stability of a loving family, and I mean every combination of people who make a family THAT is what makes us as human race strong. I am not so arrogant as to say I KNOW what Love should be and who should only be allowed to express the feeling. Look in Merriam Webster Dictionary, there are four different definitions of the word marriage; what they have in common ARE THESE words RELATIONSHIP, UNION, MUTUAL RELATION OF INDIVIDUALS, INTIMATE OR CLOSE UNION, JOINED. My goal for my kids is for them to find someone who respects them, loves them, cherishes the gifts they can bring to the relationship, and hopefully can inspire the same in their partner. Love the heart, love the person, it does not matter the gender. They are my children and I will love them and welcome their partners.
This proposition is an attack on our unalienable rights. This proposition is an attack on acceptance. This proposition is an attack on tolerance. Sure, there are some who will come back at me and ask me if I am accepting and tolerant of child abuse, molestation, rape, murder. On those issues in our society, no I am not. Inflicting pain, whether it is physical or emotional is not ok with me. Nor should those acts be in any situation, but tell me, how those acts of violence compare with a home and relationships which is nurturing, stable, and may or may not have same gender couples? A happy home, a happy relationship is just that. It is not defined by gender and should never be. Vote NO on 8, you will be glad you did.
Thus end my oration.